Let’s face it — dry spells suck. And when you’re stuck in one, it can feel like you’re in a downward spiral that never ends. The truth is, the hungry don’t get fed. If you’re not taking real action, you’re likely to stay stuck exactly where you are.
So, how do you break the cycle of sexlessness and finally start getting laid again? More importantly, what should you be doing during a dry spell to set yourself up for success?
Who Am I to Tell You This?
My name is Stirling Cooper — award-winning adult film star and former high-end male companion. I’ve seen and experienced more of the dating and sex world than most men ever will, and I’m here to help you transform your sex life.
Let’s dive into the real talk.
1. Stop Masturbating All the Damn Time
If you’re jerking off into tissues multiple times a day, you’re draining yourself of masculine drive and motivation. Masturbation might feel like a release, but it’s a false sense of accomplishment. You’re rewarding yourself without doing any of the work.
Think of your sex drive as energy. When you waste it on porn and tissues, you’re robbing yourself of the very fire that pushes men to take risks, talk to women, and pursue sex in real life.
2. Channel That Energy Into Growth
Don’t suppress your sex drive — use it. Channel it into:
- The gym — build the body women desire.
- Your business or career — make money and elevate your status.
- Networking and socializing — become more confident and attractive through exposure.
These habits build your value as a man and help flip the momentum in your favor.
3. Be Proactive and Get Social
Sitting around hoping things change won’t cut it. You need to hit bars, clubs, and social events. Talk to strangers. Approach women. Even if you’re striking out, you’re gaining experience.
Set a weekly goal:
👉 Talk to 10 women a week — even if it’s just a simple “hi” or a compliment. Consistency is key.
4. Give Compliments Without Expectation
Here’s a little psychological trick: compliment women you aren’t sexually interested in — older women, heavier women, etc. Why?
- It trains you to be social and fearless.
- It makes you feel good — yes, it boosts your self-esteem.
- It builds the habit of initiating without pressure.
It’s a powerful way to get out of your own head and into social flow.
5. Optimize Your Dating Apps
If you’re not seeing success on apps, your profile might suck. Fix it by:
- Hiring a photographer for high-quality photos.
- Improving your style — how you present yourself matters.
- Using dating apps at peak times: Sunday & Monday nights, 6–8 PM.
Apps are a numbers game, but a well-crafted profile gives you a major edge.
6. Don’t Let a Dry Spell Define You
Lack of sex is not a measure of your worth. You can’t control whether a woman wants to sleep with you — so don’t let it dictate your self-esteem.
Build your confidence from within:
- Master your body
- Grow your wealth
- Develop strong, self-reinforcing habits
Stay focused on internal metrics, not external validation.
7. Don’t Go Crawling Back to Toxic Exes
Desperation makes men do stupid things — like texting that toxic ex or old hookup just to “end the drought.” Don’t do it.
You left that situation for a reason. Respect yourself. Taking the easy way out just leads to misery and setbacks.
8. Be Ready When the Drought Ends
When you finally do get laid again, you might bust fast — that’s normal after a dry spell. Don’t beat yourself up. Instead:
- Laugh it off
- Go for round two
- Use your excitement to fuel a night to remember
Don’t let pressure ruin the moment. Just have fun and enjoy it.
Build momentum. One step at a time.
Breaking a dry spell takes effort, consistency, and patience — but it’s 100% doable. Take control of your habits, build your social skills, and don’t fall into the trap of relying on short-term fixes.
There’s an abundance of opportunity out there — but you have to work for it. So get out there and build momentum. One step at a time.
