Nothing will teach you more about the way women think, feel, and respond than a career in adult films. After years in the industry, I’ve seen patterns most men never notice—and today I’m sharing the six biggest truths I’ve learned from my time on set.
These insights are raw, real, and rooted in experience—not fantasy.
1. Most Women Physically Respond the Same
Despite what many think, women are surprisingly similar when it comes to physical responses. In porn, you quickly see patterns: most women enjoy hair pulling, spanking, and other common kinks. These responses are nearly universal.
What this means for you: Learn the patterns, read the cues, and you’ll be ahead of 90% of men.
2. Nipple Sensitivity Is Wildly Unpredictable
While most physical preferences are consistent, nipple stimulation is an outlier. Some women barely want them touched. Others want intense play. There’s no link to breast size, ethnicity, or body type.
Bottom line: Always start light, ask questions, and adjust based on her reactions.
3. Women Want You to Lead—Even When They’re Experienced
Early in my career, I assumed seasoned actresses would want to take charge. Wrong. Even the most experienced performers respected me more when I led confidently. Women may tolerate a passive man—but they don’t respect him.
Key insight: Leading doesn’t mean dominating. It means owning the moment with calm, assertive energy.
4. Don’t Be Ashamed of Your Desires
Hiding your turn-ons or apologizing for your kinks makes you look weak and unsure of yourself. One of the biggest changes in my personal and professional life came from fully owning what I like—and being unapologetic about it.
Real confidence: Accept your desires and communicate them like a man who knows what he wants.
5. Men’s and Women’s Fantasies Are Totally Different
Men fantasize about visuals—specific acts, body parts, outfits. Women fantasize about being taken, dominated, and sometimes degraded. The core theme? Control—and surrender.
If you want to turn her on: Focus on creating a dominant experience, not just physical stimulation.
6. Power Without Accountability Corrupts Fast
In porn, I’ve seen what happens when women get influence with no checks. Female performers with big followings often send their fans after anyone who disagrees with them—no matter how petty the reason.
Hard truth: This isn’t just about porn. It’s human nature. Authority without responsibility is a recipe for abuse.
