Too many guys sabotage their chances with women by coming off as creepy—often without realizing it. In this post, adult film star and former high-class companion Sterling Cooper breaks down what actually makes a guy seem creepy, and gives you four practical, non-creepy ways to seduce a woman confidently.
What Does It Mean to Be Creepy?
Before diving into the tips, let’s define what “creepy” actually means in this context. It comes down to three things:
- Incongruence – Your words, thoughts, and actions don’t align.
- Hesitancy – You delay or act unsure when making moves.
- Neediness – You’re seeking validation or approval.
Same actions, different results: A confident guy can do something and seem smooth; a hesitant or needy guy can do the same thing and come across as creepy. It’s not just what you do—it’s how you do it.
1. Use a Statement of Intent
Set the tone from the beginning. A statement of intent subtly lets her know that this isn’t a friend-zone conversation—it’s romantic.
Example: “You have to admit, our kids would look pretty hot.”
It’s confident, cocky, playful, and eliminates any confusion about your intent. You’re being bold without being desperate.
2. Hold Her Hand (Yes, Really)
Physical touch matters, and something as simple as hand-holding establishes a romantic context. It’s also a great litmus test—does she squeeze back? Does she hold on longer than needed? Pay attention.
Even better: Let her walk arm-in-arm with you while leading her confidently through the environment.
3. Engineer “Romantic” Physical Moments
Example: Find a reason to carry her (e.g. over a puddle or unstable ground). It’s a mix of strength, gentlemanly charm, and fairy-tale fantasy.
This move:
- Establishes physical dominance
- Plays into romantic archetypes (e.g. carrying a bride over the threshold)
- Creates emotional charge
Just be sure you’re physically capable—and don’t force it if the context isn’t natural.
4. Sit Side-by-Side and Let Your Legs Touch
When sitting together, avoid face-to-face “interview mode.” Sit side-by-side so your legs touch gently. That subtle contact creates:
- Emotional and sexual tension
- Comfort and chemistry
- Opportunity to whisper, joke, or escalate
It’s a small move with a big impact.
Key Takeaway
Creepy behavior isn’t about the act—it’s about how you show up. Confidence, congruence, and relaxed assertiveness win every time.
