Ever wonder why a woman would pay a man for sex?
In this revealing blog post, former high-class male escort and award-winning adult film star Sterling Cooper shares six powerful insights into the female mind—insights that shattered stereotypes and revealed what women really crave behind closed doors.
1. Women Fantasize About Archetypes, Not Average Guys
Sterling learned early on that every successful male escort played a character—whether it was the dangerous James Bond type, the dominant leather-clad figure, or the free-spirited nature guru. Women weren’t just paying for a body; they were paying for a fantasy.
Takeaway: If you want to stand out, embody a compelling archetype that taps into her imagination.
2. Undivided Attention is the Ultimate Seduction
Want to make a woman feel sexy, special, and seen? Put your phone down and be fully present. Especially with older or less confident women, deep eye contact and curiosity make her feel like the only woman in the world.
Pro tip: Ask her about her story. Most men never do.
3. Passion is Magnetic
When a man speaks passionately—whether about travel, nutrition, or any genuine interest—women light up. Sterling found that being deeply enthusiastic made him irresistible, even more than scripted charm or pickup lines.
Key insight: Passion signals purpose, and purpose is sexy.
4. Women Want the Alpha and the Beta—In One Man
Sterling’s clients wanted it all: a man who could wine and dine with millionaires and ravish them like a savage in bed. In short, they wanted a provider and a passionate lover in one package.
Lesson: The ideal man balances emotional intelligence, confidence, and primal masculinity.
5. Wealthy Women Are Often the Loneliest
Many of Sterling’s clients were successful, high-earning women—yet painfully alone. Why? Because the more money they made, the fewer men they found acceptable. And the men they did want often chased younger women.
Truth bomb: Being rich doesn’t shield anyone from emotional isolation.
6. Women Want to Feel Sexy—By Turning You On
Contrary to popular belief, many clients needed to make Sterling climax. Why? Because it validated their desirability. If he didn’t finish, they felt rejected or unattractive.
Insight: For many women, making a man feel pleasure is deeply tied to their own sense of sex appeal.
This unique look into the private world of male companionship offers more than entertainment—it reveals the hidden desires, fears, and fantasies many women are reluctant to admit. From fantasy fulfillment to emotional validation, these six insights show just how layered female psychology truly is.
