Premature ejaculation (PE) is one of the most common yet frustrating challenges for many men. But the good news? You can overcome it—naturally and effectively. In this post, sex coach and former adult film star Sterling Cooper breaks down the root causes of PE and offers clear, actionable techniques that can help you go from lasting 30 seconds to 5, 10, or even 20 minutes and beyond.
What Is Premature Ejaculation, Really?
Forget the textbook definitions that measure your performance by the minute. Cooper defines premature ejaculation in the most practical way: ejaculating before you want to. If you feel out of control in the bedroom, this post is for you.
What Causes Premature Ejaculation?
PE is usually linked to:
- Performance anxiety
- Guilt, stress, or depression
- Tight pelvic floor muscles
- Poor masturbation habits (i.e., finishing too fast)
- Low serotonin levels
Cooper warns against using desensitizing creams or antidepressants. Not only can they transfer to your partner, but they also don’t solve the real issue—control.
Tips to Last Longer Without Medication
1. Start With Your Worst Position
Begin sex with your least stimulating position. It helps you stay calm through the first 5–10 minutes—the critical “danger zone” where PE is most likely to occur.
2. Recognize Your Point of No Return
Train yourself to detect when you’re close to climax and ease off before it’s too late. Build awareness through sex or mindful masturbation.
3. Use the ‘Kink the Hose’ Trick
Apply light pressure to the base of your penis with two fingers (one up, one down). This interrupts the nerve signals momentarily, helping you reset.
4. Meditate & Relax Your Pelvic Floor
Stress and tension in the pelvic region are major contributors to PE. Meditation reduces anxiety, and pelvic floor bridges help strengthen and relax key muscles.
5. Retrain Your Body with Edging
During masturbation, slowly build up to climax, then stop. Let the arousal subside, then repeat. Over time, this reconditions your sexual response and boosts control.
6. Try Reverse Kegels
While urinating, push the flow out faster—this is a reverse kegel. It relaxes your pelvic floor and helps prevent your body from staying in a constant “ready to climax” state.
7. Pull Out & Go Down on Her
When you’re close to climaxing, pause penetration and focus on pleasuring your partner orally. This gives you a reset and keeps her in the moment.
Final Thoughts
Lasting longer in bed isn’t just about physical endurance—it’s about mental awareness, control, and practice. By implementing these techniques consistently, you can rewire your habits and show up with confidence and stamina in every intimate moment.
