Ready to take your oral game to the next level? This isn’t porn-style theatrics—this is real, practical advice to make her melt. In this guide, Stirling Cooper teams up with intimacy expert Céline Remy to break down what actually works when you’re going down on a woman.
Don’t Start Like Porn
Porn-style cunnilingus might look hot on camera, but it’s rarely enjoyable for the woman. On set, it’s mostly for angles—not pleasure. Forget the aggressive, performative licks and start tuning into what she actually feels.
Every Clit Is Different
There’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Each woman prefers different speeds and pressure. Start by giving her a simple way to guide you:
Only let her use four words:
- Harder
- Softer
- Faster
- Slower
Asking “Do you like that?” puts her in her head and kills the vibe. Give her tools, not pressure.
Tease First, Don’t Rush
Too many men rush to the clit. Big mistake. Instead:
- Kiss her inner thighs
- Explore the labia
- Build slow anticipation
When you do get to her clit, apply the lightest touch—like brushing your tongue against a sheet of paper. Slowly increase pressure only when she tells you to.
Don’t Break the Rhythm
Once you find her sweet spot—the pressure and rhythm that make her quiver—do not change it. No breaks, no switching patterns. Stay consistent or risk starting over.
Watch Her Body, Not Just Her Mouth
Women can fake moans—but not:
- Pelvic spasms
- Swollen labia
- Pulsing clit
These are real signs she’s close. Pay attention to her body more than her words.
Add Internal Stimulation (Smartly)
Once she’s turned on, gently add one or two fingers inside her using a “come here” motion toward her G-spot. This combo—tongue + fingers—is often what takes her over the edge.
Calm Her Insecurities
Most women worry during oral:
- Do I taste okay?
- Is this taking too long?
- Do I look weird?
Ease her mind. Say things like:
- “You taste amazing.”
- “Take your time.”
- “I love how you sound.”
This helps her relax—and climax.
Enthusiasm Is Your Superpower
The #1 rule? Actually enjoy it.
Don’t fake it. Be the guy who loves giving oral. Just like women find it sexy when a girl loves giving head—your passion will drive her wild too.
Bonus Tip: Learn to Breathe
Nose breathing is essential. Stay locked in—face buried, tongue engaged, breathing through your nose. Add suction (gently) as another tool in your arsenal.
When done right, oral sex is a gift—for both of you. Commit, stay present, and most of all… enjoy it.
