Dating in today’s world can feel like a marathon with no guaranteed prize. You invest time, money, and energy on multiple dates—often with little to no physical payoff. The truth? The woman you’re seeing is likely sleeping with someone… it might as well be you. Let’s break down six practical, no-BS steps you can implement to maximize your chances of getting laid on the first date.
1. Prepare for Success
Before the date even starts, assume she’s coming back to your place. That means:
- Clean the house.
- Scrub the bathroom (no stains or mess).
- Put away dirty laundry and take out the trash.
- Make it smell good—not like a gym bag.
- Have condoms ready and accessible.
Preparation sets the stage both physically and mentally for success. Don’t let great chemistry go to waste because your apartment looks like a frat house.
2. Bring Her Into Your World
Don’t let her plan the date. Take the lead and choose a location near your home—ideally a spot you know well. Whether it’s a favorite bar or café, being on familiar turf gives you the logistical advantage and boosts your confidence. Familiarity = control, and control = more success.
Avoid her suggestions to meet her friends or hang out at her workplace. You want one-on-one time where you can build intimacy—not compete with distractions.
3. Physical Escalation Starts Immediately
From the moment you greet her, set the tone. A kiss on the cheek and a gentle hand on her arm or back as you say hello can establish a romantic vibe from the jump.
Avoid awkward platonic vibes by skipping handshakes or keeping too much distance. Physical touch early on creates a natural buildup of sexual tension, making future escalation feel seamless.
4. Engineer Plausible Deniability
Most women won’t admit they’re looking to hook up—even if they are. So create a believable, non-sexual reason for her to come back to your place. Some examples:
- “You’ve got to meet my dog, he’d love you.”
- “You’ve never seen the city skyline from my balcony?”
- “I’ve got a telescope—you ever seen Mercury?”
Mention this “pull reason” halfway through the date, then casually bring it up again at the end. It gives her a socially acceptable excuse to go back with you without feeling judged.
5. Have a Place to Seal the Deal
No place = no sex. If you live with roommates or your parents and can’t bring women home, make a backup plan:
- Use your car and plan secluded spots in advance.
- Create your own “tour” of interesting local locations, ending with a private area for escalation.
If logistics block your game, adjust your strategy to make sure you have somewhere to take her. The smoother the transition, the higher the success rate.
6. Escalate Smoothly at Your Place
Once she’s back at your place and things are heating up, a common roadblock for men is knowing when to make the move. One subtle method?
While making out, gently place her hand on your erection (without force). Her response gives you clear signals:
- Keeps her hand there or strokes you = green light.
- Pulls away but keeps making out = slow down, but not a full stop.
- Pulls away completely or acts uncomfortable = red light. Respect it and end the night gracefully.
This strategy also shifts physical escalation to her, increasing her arousal and sense of agency.
