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Let’s face it—there’s no manual handed out at puberty for how to please a woman with your hands. But if there were, it might look a lot like this.
In this guide, you’ll learn 10 do’s and don’ts of fingering, based on hard-earned wisdom from professionals (and lesbian women who definitely know what they’re doing). If you want to step up your bedroom skills and avoid common rookie mistakes, read on.
1. ❌ Don’t Have Dirty Fingernails
Clean hands aren’t just polite—they’re essential. Fingering with dirty fingernails can introduce bacteria and mess with your partner’s pH balance. That’s a fast track to discomfort and infections. Keep those nails short, clean, and smooth.
2. ❌ Don’t Have Sharp Fingernails
Long, jagged, or pointy nails? Absolutely not. You’re not digging for treasure—you’re engaging with one of the most sensitive parts of her body. Trim and file them before playtime. If you play guitar or have a long picking nail, use a different finger.
3. ❌ Don’t Be Too Rough (Especially Early On)
You don’t start a massage by pounding pressure points—and the same goes here. Don’t jab or thrash. Ease into it. Build up intensity gradually. Think “teasing touch,” not “jackhammer.” Fingering is part of foreplay, not a finishing move.
4. ❌ Don’t Treat Your Fingers Like a Penis
Fingers aren’t just smaller versions of what’s below the belt. They require finesse and purpose. Simply poking around aimlessly won’t do much. Your goal is to stimulate, not simulate. The real magic happens when you use your fingers with intention.
5. ✅ Do Check In With Her
This is intimacy, not a solo performance. Eye contact, dirty talk, kisses—stay engaged with her reactions. If she’s moaning, grinding, or pulling you in, great. If she’s frozen or pulling away, adjust. Communication is sexy.
6. ✅ Focus on the G-Spot
The G-spot isn’t a myth. It’s real, reachable, and powerful.
💡 Where is it?
About one knuckle deep on the upper wall of the vagina (toward the belly). Use a gentle “come hither” motion with one or two fingers. It feels spongy and a bit textured.
Play with pressure. Some women like a firm touch, others prefer it lighter—watch her reactions and adjust accordingly.
7. ✅ Keep a Consistent Rhythm
Once you find a spot and motion she enjoys—stick with it. Don’t switch things up every few seconds. Rhythm, pressure, and consistency help build her toward climax. Don’t outsmart yourself by getting too creative too soon.
8. ✅ Try Multiple Fingers (Gently)
Some women enjoy one finger. Others love two. Some might enjoy even more. It depends on her anatomy and arousal level. Start with one, then test two—especially when stimulating the G-spot. Just never force it.
9. ✅ Use Lubrication (Seriously)
Nothing ruins the moment like dry friction. Saliva works in a pinch. But a water-based lube is your best friend. Never go in dry—it’s the equivalent of a dry handjob. And no one wants that.
10. ✅ Stimulate the Clitoris Too
Nothing ruins the moment like dry friction. Saliva works in a pinch. But a water-based lube is your best friend. Never go in dry—it’s the equivalent of a dry handjob. And no one wants that.
Final Thoughts
Fingering isn’t just foreplay—done right, it can be the main event. And while the techniques matter, your attention, confidence, and care make all the difference. Respect her body, pay attention to what works, and don’t rush the process.
Because when it comes to great sex, details matter—and so do your fingers.
