How to Permanently Eliminate Performance Anxiety in the Bedroom
You’re finally with a beautiful woman. The stars have aligned. But just as things heat up… your nerves get the better of you—and your downstairs buddy won’t cooperate. Sound familiar?
I’m Sterling Cooper, award-winning adult film star and former high-class male companion. And today, I’m going to show you how to permanently eliminate performance anxiety and take control in the bedroom—for good.
Performance Anxiety vs. Erectile Dysfunction
Let’s get something clear: performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction are not the same.
- Erectile Dysfunction (ED) = Physical issue (blood flow, hormones, etc.)
- Performance Anxiety = Mental issue (stress, nerves, psychological blocks)
Most guys confuse the two. And that’s a big mistake.
One of the Biggest Triggers: Porn
Look at the data: there’s a clear correlation between excessive porn use and what people call “erectile dysfunction.” But in reality, this is performance anxiety caused by dopamine desensitization.
Why?
Because porn gives you limitless novelty—a new visual every second. No real-life woman can compete with that constant stream of stimulation. The fix is simple:
Cut out porn. Now.
Why Viagra Doesn’t Work (for This)
Many guys rush to Viagra to “fix” this problem. But here’s the truth: Viagra doesn’t give you an erection—it just helps you keep one if you’re already aroused.
So if you’re stuck in your head with performance anxiety, popping blue pills is like putting a band-aid on a brain fog. It won’t work.
The Pornstar Mindset: 3 Keys to Mental Control
The real solution is mental—and I call it the Pornstar Mindset, made up of three components:
- Presence – Be in the moment. Not in your head.
- Calmness – Eliminate the fight-or-flight response (where your brain thinks sex is danger, and redirects blood away from your penis).
- Sexual Arousal – You must actually be turned on.
When you combine calmness with arousal, you unlock total control and natural performance.
Quick Mental Trick: Dirty Talk
Think dirty talk is just for her? Wrong. Dirty talk is a mental tool for YOU.
Why? It:
- Shifts your focus away from anxiety
- Stimulates your arousal
- Gets your brain in a dominant, playful, erotic state
Example:
“You have no idea what I’m about to do to you. I’m going to tie you up, pull your hair, and make you beg for more…”
Now you’re mentally engaged. And so is she.
The Physical Hack: The 4-Egg Shake + Edging
If you want a quick, effective pre-date routine to prime your body and brain:
🔹 The Night Before:
- 4 raw eggs (pasture-raised)
- 1 scoop vanilla protein powder
- Water
- Blend and drink 2–3 hours before bed.
The cholesterol helps your body produce testosterone overnight—so you wake up with a rock-hard erection.
🔹 The Day Of:
- Edging without climaxing (aka: give yourself blue balls)
- This keeps your arousal high and testosterone primed when you meet her.
One client did this and messaged me:
“Walked around with a hard-on all day. Problem solved. And she wants to come back again. Thank you, G.”
Final Thoughts: You Can Rewire This
If you’ve ever fumbled in the bedroom due to nerves—it’s not game over. You just need to reprogram your mental patterns.
That’s exactly what I break down step-by-step in my Ultimate Guide to Performance Anxiety. Inside, I teach you:
- How to stop psyching yourself out
- Mental prescriptions for different anxiety types
- Physical hacks to build confidence and control
And if you want to strengthen your erections naturally, check out this post where I share foods that help stiffen your sausage.
