Let’s Talk Dirty Talk (Or… Should We?)
Ladies and gentlemen—do I have some fantastic sex tips for you today!
I’m here with the “Intimacy Angel” herself, Celine Remy, and we’re kicking off a multi-part series where each week, we drop both the male and female perspectives on your most-asked bedroom questions.
So without further ado—Celine, welcome! Give our readers a quick intro.
Celine Remy: “Absolutely! I’m Celine Remy, a certified sexological bodyworker. My mission is to help people reclaim and celebrate their sexy selves, feel empowered in the bedroom, and deepen their intimate connections.”
Know Your Partner First
Celine: “The most important thing? Know your partner. Some people love being called naughty names; others can be completely turned off by the same words. Always have that pre-play conversation—ask your partner what turns them on or off when it comes to language.”
And she’s right. Even in the adult film world, there are pre-shoot discussions about which words are a “yes” and which are a hard “no.” The wrong word can absolutely kill the mood—and once the vibe is broken, it’s hard to recover.
Finding the Balance: Body and Mind
Celine: “Women want to be appreciated for our beauty—but also for our brains. The best ‘dirty talk’ hits both: tell her she’s sexy, tell her she’s smart, tell her she drives you wild and gets you like nobody else.”
It’s not just about talking at your partner. It’s about letting them feel seen, appreciated, and desired on all levels.
Dirty Talk Confidence: The Male Perspective
Here’s how I help guys break through their dirty talk nerves. I tell them to focus on three core elements:
1. Eye Contact
Lock eyes when you speak—when the moment allows for it. It’s intimate, powerful, and displays confidence.
💬 “I love the way your [ __ ] feels around my dick.”
Try saying that while looking into her eyes—it hits completely different.
2. Vocal Tonality
Speak slower. Speak lower. Nervous guys often rush their words or speak too high-pitched. Take your time and let the words land. Even a simple line becomes impactful when delivered with presence.
3. Whisper In Her Ear (The Cheat Code)
When eye contact isn’t possible, whispering becomes your best weapon. It’s intimate, erotic, and taps directly into the brain—the most powerful sex organ of all.
Not Sure What to Say? Start Simple.
If you’re new to this, here’s the easiest hack:
Just describe what’s happening.
Say what you’re feeling:
- “I love how wet you are.”
- “You taste amazing.”
- “I love how tight you feel around me.”
Then take it a step further:
- “I bet you love the way I’m moving inside you.”
- “You love it when I do that, don’t you?”
You don’t need to write erotic poetry. You just need to be present and verbalize the sensations you’re both experiencing.
Dirty Talk for Women: What to Do
Celine: “For women, you can use your body. Squeeze his penis with your pelvic floor, then tell him ‘You like it when I do that, don’t you?’ Touch his chest, whisper in his ear—describe what you’re doing as you’re doing it.”
And if you’re shy? Own that too.
Celine: “Some men love a shy woman. If you’re not ready to be bold, lean into your shyness. Blush, giggle, hesitate—it can be incredibly erotic when it’s genuine.”
The Power of Playfulness
Another big sign that things are going well in the bedroom? Laughter.
If you can giggle together when something awkward happens—clumsy clothing removal, a little unexpected noise, whatever—you’re in a good place.
That kind of shared laughter builds trust, relaxes tension, and creates a safe space to fully open up sexually.
Confidence > Perfection
Celine: “Connection over perfection—always. Let go of the pressure to ‘perform’ and just focus on connecting with your partner.”
She also shared a great tip for building body confidence: visit a nude beach.
“Once you see that everyone has their ‘imperfections’—cellulite, body hair, uneven breasts—you realize you’re not alone. And that can be freeing.”
Final Thoughts
Whether you’re a man learning to speak up in the bedroom or a woman learning to vocalize what you love, it all starts with confidence, communication, and connection.
Want to get better in bed? Start by showing up. Pay attention. Speak your truth. Whisper it if you have to. Look each other in the eyes—and maybe laugh when things get messy.
And most of all: enjoy the ride.
Stay tuned for the next part in our series—where we’ll dive deeper into more of your top bedroom questions, answered by both sides of the sheet.
