Foreplay doesn’t start when the clothes come off—it starts in the mind. And if you do it right, she’ll be dripping before you even touch her. These foreplay tactics build sexual tension, arouse her imagination, and drive her wild—all while fully clothed.
Let’s dive into five foreplay tips that turn anticipation into undeniable desire.
What Is Sexual Tension?
Sexual tension is the art of anticipation—creating mystery, intrigue, and that electric “what’s about to happen” energy. The secret? Her imagination. When you master how to tease her mind, her body follows.
1. Specific Instructions
Telling her what to wear and where to meet may seem simple, but it’s packed with power. Saying something like:
“Meet me here at 8, and wear that red dress from your profile.”
This shows confidence, decisiveness, and leadership—traits women find irresistible. Bonus: It becomes a subtle test of interest. If she complies eagerly, she’s already invested. And when she shows up in that dress, compliment her—reward the behavior.
2. Send Voice Notes
Most guys are too shy to send voice notes. Be the bold exception.
Use a deeper tone and downward inflection to sound confident and sexy. Send quick notes with flirtatious comments, specific instructions, or subtle compliments. Voice notes create intimacy—and stand out in a sea of bland texts.
3. Call Her a Good Girl
“Good girl.” Two words that flip a switch in many women. Use it after she complies with a request, answers a question well, or follows your lead. It sets up a playful dom/sub dynamic and lets her imagination run wild.
Don’t overdo it—but when timed right, this phrase hits deep.
4. Stay Ambiguous
Don’t be Mr. Always Available. Keep her guessing. Reply with intent, not out of boredom. Be the guy who’s pursuing goals—not waiting for her next message.
This balance of showing interest while staying busy builds tension. Lock in a date, and then stay a little mysterious. Let her wonder what’s next.
5. Assume Success
Confidence is sexy. So is cocky humor. Say things like:
“I have a feeling we’re going to get along.”
Or playfully ask:
“How many kids can you have?”
You’re framing the interaction as if it’s already going great. Just be sure she still feels she hasn’t completely won you over. Keep a little mystery alive.
Real Reactions from Women
Want proof these work? Stirling asked a few women what made them dripping wet before even seeing him. Their responses included:
- Confidence and control: “You know exactly what you want. I can just relax and be present.”
- Gentle dominance: “Ordering food, helping with heels, pulling out my chair—it’s all sexy.”
- Subtle possessiveness: “When you joked ‘you better keep it that way’—that was hot.”
- Bedroom leadership: “You add something new every time. It makes me wonder what’s next.”
Forehead kisses? They called it protection. Bossy drink orders? “Hot.” Gentle touches on the leg? “I knew exactly what you were going to do to me later.”
Final Tip: Elicit Emotion Every Time
Don’t just communicate. Make her feel something. Spark emotion—whether it’s intrigue, curiosity, or desire. When you make her feel, you make her crave.
