Nothing teaches you more about how women think, behave, and respond physically than a career in adult films. Dylan Cooper—award-winning performer and former high-end male escort—shares his six biggest lessons from years of working with hundreds of women. These aren’t sanitized dating tips—they’re blunt, experience-backed truths that every man should know.
1. Most Women Physically Respond the Same Way
Despite the myth that “every woman is different,” most women actually react similarly to physical touch. Hair pulling, spanking, and other common kinks tend to be well-received across the board. Patterns start to emerge quickly when you’ve had experience with enough partners.
Key Insight: Learn the common responses, and you’ll already be ahead of 90% of men.
2. Nipple Sensitivity Is Wildly Inconsistent
Unlike most forms of stimulation, nipple play is a complete wildcard. Some women want barely a touch—others want rough handling. The variation has nothing to do with breast size, ethnicity, or any physical feature.
Pro Tip: Always start light and communicate. You won’t know what she likes until you ask or try.
3. Women Lose Respect When You Don’t Lead
Even in professional scenes, women expect men to lead—especially in intimate settings. Dylan noticed that when he deferred to more experienced female performers, they respected him less. Taking initiative, even with seasoned partners, always resulted in better connection and mutual respect.
Lesson: Leadership in the bedroom builds attraction. Passivity kills it.
4. Be Unapologetic About Your Desires
Being shy or embarrassed about your kinks and preferences instantly signals insecurity. Dylan emphasizes that confidence in your turn-ons—not hiding them—is what makes you attractive. Own your desires.
Remember: Confidence isn’t about having the “right” fetish—it’s about being proud of who you are.
5. Men’s vs. Women’s Fantasies Are Very Different
Men’s fantasies often revolve around visuals—clothing, body parts, acts. Women’s fantasies usually involve submission, dominance, or being “taken.” These recurring themes show up in softer or more extreme ways, but the core remains similar.
Takeaway: If you want to truly turn her on, understand her desire to be led or claimed, not just stimulated.
6. Power Without Accountability Breeds Toxicity
Dylan warns about what happens when women in high-authority positions (especially in porn) aren’t held accountable. He points to social media mob tactics used by female performers to sic followers on anyone who offends them, often without reason.
Final Word: Healthy relationships require mutual responsibility. Power without it turns toxic.
