What you can learn from women who want nothing to do with you
💡 Intro: Lessons From the Pros (Who Aren’t Into You)
If there’s one group of people who’ve truly mastered the art of pleasuring women, it’s lesbians—and guys, it’s time we took notes.
In this guide, I’ll walk you through 10 essential do’s and don’ts of fingering, based on common mistakes and what actually works. This isn’t fluff—it’s real talk from someone who’s been in the industry and knows what makes women actually moan.
Let’s dive in.
❌ 1. Don’t Have Dirty Fingernails
Let’s start with the obvious: clean your damn hands.
The vagina is a delicate ecosystem, and shoving dirty fingers in there can disrupt pH balance, cause infections, and basically ruin the vibe. Trim, wash, and clean before you go anywhere near her.
❌ 2. Don’t Have Sharp Fingernails
You wouldn’t want a steak knife in your pants—neither does she. Long, jagged nails are a surefire way to turn foreplay into a horror movie.
🛠️ Pro tip: Manicure or trim nails smooth. If you’re a guitarist with one long plucking nail, use a different finger.
❌ 3. Don’t Be Too Rough
Fingering isn’t a race. If you’re going in like you’re trying to win a thumb war, slow down.
Start gentle, build up gradually, and let her body guide you. This is foreplay, not a punching match with her cervix.
❌ 4. Don’t Treat Your Fingers Like a Thin Penis
Your fingers ≠ your penis. You can’t just poke around randomly and expect fireworks.
Fingers are thinner and more precise, which means you need to be more intentional—touch a surface, stroke a spot. Don’t just jab and swirl like you’re drawing with a crayon in the dark.
✅ 5. Check In With Her
She’s a human. Look up, make eye contact, say something dirty, kiss her thighs—engage.
Better yet, pay attention to her reactions. Is she breathing heavier? Moaning? Or does she look like she’s reading ceiling tiles? Adjust accordingly.
✅ 6. Focus on the G-Spot
Located about a knuckle and a half deep on the front wall of the vagina, the G-spot is where magic happens. It feels slightly spongy or wrinkly—that’s what you’re aiming for.
Use a “come hither” motion with your fingers—not jabbing. Keep the pressure steady and respond to her feedback.
✅ 7. Maintain a Consistent Rhythm
Once you find what works, stick with it. Consistency is key to getting her to climax. Start slow, build pressure and speed over time—but don’t break the rhythm once she’s in the zone.
✅ 8. Try Multiple Fingers (But Start Slow)
Most women prefer two fingers—it mimics the girth of a penis better than one. But always start slow and see what she likes.
Some like one. Some might like three. Some might even enjoy a whole fist—but that’s another post.
✅ 9. Don’t Finger Her Dry
Dry fingering is the female equivalent of a dry handjob—aka torture.
Use saliva or lube, whichever you’re comfortable with. Spit on your fingers or go down first. But please, do not go in dry.
✅ 10. Stimulate the Clitoris Too
Why stop at fingers? Use your thumb, your mouth, or your tongue to stimulate the clit while you’re fingering. This combo is what sends women into orbit.
Your Nintendo 64 joystick-trained thumb has finally found its purpose.
🔥 Final Thoughts: Do Better, Be Better
Most guys are mediocre in bed not because they’re bad people—just because no one taught them better. Now you know. No excuses.
If you want to go the extra mile, learn how to give better oral and take your bedroom skills from basic to elite.
